Living: October 2014

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The Marriage Equality Map is Filling In. These Others? Not So Much.

Filed by John M. Becker | October 31, 2014 | 5:00 PM | comments

The marriage equality map is filling in fast, but the maps for many other equally important LGBT rights and protections are nowhere near caught up.Read More

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What's Your Halloween Costume? [Open Thread]

Filed by John M. Becker | October 31, 2014 | 2:00 PM | comments

What are your Halloween plans? Are you going in costume? If so, who/what are you dressing up as?Read More

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Nashville Gay Rugby Team's New Calendar Is Hot

Filed by Bil Browning | October 31, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

Last year we brought you a contest to win a copy of the 2014 Nashville Grizzlies rugby team's sexy calendar and this year, the guys are back and just as hot as last year.Read More

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Mr. Rogers is Wrong: You Aren't Special

Filed by Michael Knaapen | October 31, 2014 | 11:00 AM | comments

The Cult of Identity-As-Truth damages our understanding of what it means to be humans occupying space in a universe hemmed in by objective reality, and it risks blurring some of the crucial ways in which self-identification really matters.Read More

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Revisiting a Pre-Stonewall LGBT Sit-In

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 30, 2014 | 4:00 PM | comments

In the sit-in at Dewey's in Philadelphia, some historians find evidence of LGBT militancy beginning much earlier than 1969.Read More

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Rioting in Black and White: From Ferguson To Keene

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 30, 2014 | 12:00 PM | comments

A riot in New Hampshire and a likely acquittal in Ferguson, Missouri, underscore that blacks and whites still live in very different Americas, under very different rules.Read More

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Apple CEO Tim Cook Comes Out as Gay

Filed by John M. Becker | October 30, 2014 | 10:00 AM | comments

Today, Apple CEO Tim Cook officially confirmed what had long been an open secret: he's gay. Read More

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Photo of the Day: Anti-Gay Double Standard in San Diego?

Filed by John M. Becker | October 30, 2014 | 9:00 AM | comments

San Diego resident Will Walters, arrested for being "over-exposed" at the city's pride festival, says women show more skin on the beach every day but aren't arrested for it.Read More

SBC to Parents: Kids Are Better Off Dead Than Trans

Filed by Brynn Tannehill | October 29, 2014 | 5:00 PM | comments

I used to ask myself what sort of inhuman monster could willingly torture a child until they died. The Southern Baptist Convention managed to pack 1,200 of them into one room.Read More

The Conversion of a Queer-Basher

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 29, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

There are pivotal events in everyone's life that forever separate before from after. For Jim Baines of Bangor, Maine, it was the night he and two friends attacked two gay men, killing one.Read More

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Dallas Airport Gay-Basher Facing $1K Fine, No Jail Time

Filed by John M. Becker | October 29, 2014 | 12:00 PM | comments

The drunk redneck bigot who verbally and physically assaulted a man he perceived to be gay in a Dallas airport is facing a maximum of $1,000 in fines and no jail time.Read More

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Couple Who Tortured 'Gay' Child to Death Get Plea Deal

Filed by John M. Becker | October 29, 2014 | 11:00 AM | comments

Pearl Fernandez and Isauro Aguirre, who murdered 8-year-old Gabriel Fernandez after calling him gay because he played with dolls, will plead guilty in order to avoid the death penalty.Read More

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Baptist Leader Backs Away From 'Ex-Gay' Therapy

Filed by John M. Becker | October 28, 2014 | 4:00 PM | comments

Southern Baptist leader Russell Moore repudiated so-called "ex-gay" therapy at a conference today, implicitly endorsing celibacy for gays and lesbians instead.Read More


Archbishop Rips Catholic University on Same-Sex Benefits

Filed by John M. Becker | October 28, 2014 | 12:00 PM | comments

Nebraska's Creighton University -- a private Catholic school -- will now allow employees to cover their same-sex spouses under the school's health plan.Read More


Support for Marriage Equality 'Nearly Universal' Among College Freshmen

Filed by John M. Becker | October 28, 2014 | 11:00 AM | comments

Support for marriage equality is so overwhelming among incoming college students that one prominent national opinion poll isn't even going to bother asking about it anymore.Read More

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Westboro Baptist Seeks to Intervene in KS Marriage Case

Filed by John M. Becker | October 27, 2014 | 3:00 PM | comments

The Westboro Baptist Church filed a brief yesterday seeking to intervene in Kansas's marriage equality case.Read More

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Making Marriage Meaningless?

Filed by Bil Browning | October 27, 2014 | 2:00 PM | comments

The latest bit of twaddle from the evangelical Taliban is out and it's just as derptastic as you imagine it'll be. Read More


Pope Francis Slams 'Bastardized' Marriages

Filed by John M. Becker | October 27, 2014 | 1:30 PM | comments

In remarks delivered Saturday, Pope Francis bemoaned the growing divide between civil and religious marriage and slammed as "bastardized" any definitions of marriage and family that do not comport with those of the Catholic Church.Read More

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Methodist Church Affirms Reinstatement of Pro-Gay Pastor

Filed by John M. Becker | October 27, 2014 | 11:30 AM | comments

The top court in the United Methodist Church has allowed Rev. Frank Schaefer, who was defrocked for officiating at his gay son's wedding, to remain a pastor.Read More

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Debunking Alleged LGBT Connections in JFK Assassination

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 26, 2014 | 4:00 PM | comments

Alleged gay and lesbian connections to John F. Kennedy's assassination remain firmly entrenched in the minds of many Americans. But these speculations should be put to rest once and for all.Read More


As We Battle Ebola, Confronting the Echoes of AIDS

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | October 26, 2014 | 2:00 PM | comments

The hysteria and paranoia associated with Ebola is eerily reminiscent of when the country was in its AIDS crisis.Read More

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An Unconventional Wedding Announcement

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 26, 2014 | 12:00 PM | comments

While we're genuinely happy for those who celebrate the coming of marriage equality, we don't believe we've "won the fight."Read More

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The Autumn of Humanity? [Picture Tells A Story]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | October 25, 2014 | 5:00 PM | comments

No one wants to imagine their lives as analogous the fall leaves, which though beautiful, are here and gone in a moment. Yet, the question we should ask is if we could be entering into the autumn of our species.Read More


Homophobe Attacks Man in Airport for Possibly Being Gay

Filed by John M. Becker | October 24, 2014 | 4:30 PM | comments

"I punched him square in the f***in' mouth is what I did. Because this is America!"Read More

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RIP Gloria Casarez - We've Lost a True Leader

Filed by Mark Segal | October 24, 2014 | 3:00 PM | comments

Gloria Casarez, the Philadelphia mayor's LGBT liaison, passed away this week. She was an incredible person.Read More

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If You Think Your Status Will Protect You...

Filed by Bil Browning | October 24, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

For those with the privilege of living in a pro-LGBT area or with enough money or upward mobility, it's easy to forget that discrimination still exists - until it slaps you in the face.Read More

Same-Sex Adoption Now Legal in Utah

Filed by John M. Becker | October 24, 2014 | 11:00 AM | comments

The Utah Supreme Court has cleared the way for same-sex adoption in the Beehive State.Read More

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U.S. Marine Suspected in Trans Woman's Murder Detained

Filed by John M. Becker | October 23, 2014 | 5:00 PM | comments

A U.S. Marine may face murder charges in the Philippines in the strangling death of Jennifer Laude, a 26-year-old transgender woman.Read More


Gays in Liberia Blamed for Ebola, Now Facing Violence

Filed by John M. Becker | October 23, 2014 | 2:00 PM | comments

Christian churches in Liberia are blaming the country's Ebola epidemic on gay people, and gays are being attacked as a result.Read More

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O, Dem Golden Slippers: Gender Variance & the Mummers Parade

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 23, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

For over a century, hundreds of men used the all-male bastion of the Philadelphia Mummers' New Year's Day Parade to create a space in which they could publicly defy expectations about gender.Read More

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New Android Ad Shows Same-Sex Marriage Proposal

Filed by Bil Browning | October 22, 2014 | 1:30 PM | comments

Google has a new commercial for their Android phones that includes a same-sex marriage proposal among shots of other happy people doing fun things somehow related to a cell phone.Read More


In Remembrance of Matthew Shepard

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 22, 2014 | 12:30 PM | comments

Though Matthew Shepard's attackers may have succeeded in devastating his body, they did not and will never succeed in destroying his gentle spirit, or in extinguishing the heart of a community and a movement for social justice.Read More

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BREAKING: Dallas Cowboys Axe Michael Sam

Filed by John M. Becker | October 21, 2014 | 4:20 PM | comments

Michael Sam, the first openly gay NFL draft pick, has been waived by the Dallas Cowboys.Read More

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Watch: Monica Lewinsky Speaks Out Against Cyberbullying

Filed by John M. Becker | October 21, 2014 | 2:00 PM | comments

Monica Lewinsky spoke out this week in Philadelphia about a new mission: ending cyberbullying. Watch.Read More

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Scores of LGBT Sites Eyed for Landmark Status

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 21, 2014 | 11:00 AM | comments

A National Park Service project has identified hundreds of potential LGBT sites across America that could someday win federal landmark status -- and that's just the tip of the iceberg.Read More

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Elvis Won't Marry Same-Sex Couples Because Jesus

Filed by John M. Becker | October 20, 2014 | 5:00 PM | comments

In Vegas, some wedding chapels will allow you to get married with Elvis and hula dancers... unless you're a same-sex couple. Because marriage is sacred.Read More

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Gay Russian Asylum-Seekers Marry in D.C.

Filed by John M. Becker | October 20, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

Bilerico guest blogger and gay Russian asylum-seeker Andrew Nasonov married his fiancé, Igor Bazilevsky, in a private ceremony in Washington, D.C. on Saturday. Editor-in-Chief John Becker officiated.Read More

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Gay Evangelical Wants to Pay Bigoted Bakers' Court Fine

Filed by John M. Becker | October 20, 2014 | 11:00 AM | comments

Gay evangelical Christian Matt Stolhandske wants to raise $150,000 for Melissa and Aaron Klein, the bigoted Oregon bakers who violated state law by refusing to bake a cake for a lesbian couple.Read More

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Young U.S. Catholics Are Overwhelmingly Pro-Gay

Filed by John M. Becker | October 19, 2014 | 3:00 PM | comments

In an indication of just how wildly out of step the Roman Catholic hierarchy is with its adherents' views, an overwhelming majority of U.S. Catholics support same-gender marriage.Read More

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HRC Endorses PrEP

Filed by John M. Becker | October 19, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

The Human Rights Campaign, the United States' largest LGBT rights organization, has come out in favor of the HIV prevention method PrEP.Read More


Catholic Bishops to Gays: Just Kidding, You're Not Welcome

Filed by John M. Becker | October 18, 2014 | 8:30 PM | comments

A group of bishops meeting at the Vatican has canceled plans to make the Catholic Church even a little bit more friendly to gays and lesbians. Read More


Ravages & Progression of Time [PTAS]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | October 18, 2014 | 4:00 PM | comments

While America is rushing forward towards LGBTQ acceptance at a pace inconceivable a few years ago, we need to remain conscious of the fact that what is only obvious and fair to us, is scary and new to many people. Read More

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Remembering the Life, Love and Legacy of Audre Lorde

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | October 17, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

LGBT legend Audre Lorde used her indefatigable spirit to fight on many fronts -- and white feminist exclusion was just one of the battles.Read More


The Vatican & Gays: The 'Earthquake' That Wasn't

Filed by John M. Becker | October 16, 2014 | 5:30 PM | comments

English-speaking bishops have managed to muddy the waters and create confusion around a new Vatican document that takes a more welcoming and less hostile tone toward gays and lesbians.Read More

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LGBT Athletes: Making an Impact, On & Off the Field

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 16, 2014 | 10:00 AM | comments

The mainstream sports world has a long history linked to the gay community, dating back decades. But mainstream sports also has, without question, been the tallest mountain for the LGBT community to scale.Read More

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A Eulogy: Help Keep Betty's Dream of Equality Alive

Filed by Bil Browning | October 15, 2014 | 4:00 PM | comments

Many of you wrote me beautiful notes full of memories of Betty after it was announced that she'd passed on. Would you take one more moment to remember her dream of a more inclusive Christian community and a larger role for allies in the fight for LGBT equality?Read More

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Maggie Gallagher Is a Miserable Person

Filed by John M. Becker | October 14, 2014 | 5:00 PM | comments

Maggie Gallagher hinted this morning that she's "losing her religion" because the Catholic Church may be poised to become marginally less hostile towards gays, divorced people, and unmarried couples.Read More

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Arizona Gay Couple Gets Do-Over Wedding Ceremony

Filed by John M. Becker | October 14, 2014 | 4:00 PM | comments

The gay couple from Arizona whose dream wedding last August was interrupted by a homophobic heckler got a do-over on Saturday, thanks to the caring community of Coronado, California.Read More


Scientists Name New Snail Species For Marriage Equality

Filed by John M. Becker | October 14, 2014 | 11:00 AM | comments

Researchers at the National Taiwan Normal University and Academia Sinica have named a newly-identified species of land snail in honor of marriage equality.Read More

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Ted Olson Takes Arch-Bigot Tony Perkins to School

Filed by John M. Becker | October 13, 2014 | 12:00 PM | comments

Yesterday hate group leader Tony Perkins, one of the nation's most outspoken opponents of marriage equality, had a terrible, horrible, no-good, very bad day.Read More

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Michael Loves Tyler: A Very Modern HIV Romance

Filed by Mark S. King | October 13, 2014 | 10:00 AM | comments

Michael Lucas and Tyler Helms are practicing both of the most exciting developments in HIV prevention of the last generation. They're an HIV-prevention two-for-one.Read More

This LGBT History Month, We Have Work to Do

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 12, 2014 | 12:00 PM | comments

Tge half-truths, misinformation, deletions, omissions, distortions, and the overall censorship of LGBTIQ history, literature, and culture in the schools is a form of violence.Read More


Remembering Matt Shepard in a New Way

Filed by John M. Becker | October 12, 2014 | 10:00 AM | comments

A powerful documentary film aims to show a different side of Matthew Shepard -- not the martyred Matt, but the living Matt, the one his friends knew and loved.Read More

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War Without End? [Picture Tells A Story]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | October 11, 2014 | 4:00 PM | comments

Is who we are as a people? Fort Knox is an uncommonly beautiful place, but its purpose is to kill some people while preventing others from being killed. Its usefulness exists solely in the context of war. Read More

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David: A Story of Hope, Faith and Love

Filed by Betty Greene Salwak | October 11, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

My brother David was six years older than I. He moved out with our dad when I was nine and I saw him only sporadically thereafter. Read More

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BREAKING: Marriage Equality Coming to North Carolina, Idaho

Filed by John M. Becker | October 10, 2014 | 5:45 PM | comments

Capping off an incredible week for the freedom-to-marry movement, marriage equality is on its way to Idaho and North Carolina.Read More

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I May Die of Embarrassment

Filed by Bil Browning | October 10, 2014 | 2:30 PM | comments

There's a hot muscle bear that lives in our new building. Last night as I got off the elevator, he was waiting to get on with his small dog.Read More

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Partial Repeal of DADT Is Only the Beginning

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 10, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

I contend that those who put their lives on the line to defend the country are true patriots. But true patriots are also those who speak out, stand up, and challenge our governmental leaders.Read More

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Is NY's Port Authority Entrapping & Arresting Gay Men?

Filed by John M. Becker | October 10, 2014 | 11:30 AM | comments

The Port Authority may be entrapping and arresting men they perceive to be gay in a bathroom at the Port Authority Bus Terminal.Read More

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The 'Wall of Separation' is Paper-Thin

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 09, 2014 | 3:00 PM | comments

Do we really have a "wall of separation" between church and state and freedom from religion in the United States?Read More


Porterville, CA Places Anti-LGBT Animus Over Economy

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 09, 2014 | 2:30 PM | comments

Policies that extend poverty on the backs of LGBTQ citizens are not right. It is beyond the pale that Porterville would rather forgo very real economic advantages and opportunities than accept LGBTQ people.Read More


What's In a Name?

Filed by Brynn Tannehill | October 09, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

The fiercest fights within the LGBT community aren't over marriage, trans-exclusive feminism, or right-wing craziness. They're about words and labels.Read More

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It's Been That Kind of Week

Filed by Bil Browning | October 09, 2014 | 12:00 PM | comments

What a week it's been at Rancho Bilerico. Not only did we move last week, but Jerame and I got married on Monday and my birthday was yesterday.Read More

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HRC Prays For, Calls Out Anti-Gay Catholic Leaders

Filed by John M. Becker | October 09, 2014 | 11:00 AM | comments

HRC is standing up for LGBT Catholics this month, holding rosary and prayer vigils in seven cities across the United States whose Roman Catholic bishops are particularly homophobic.Read More

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Same-Sex Marriage vs. Interracial Marriage

Filed by John M. Becker | October 08, 2014 | 2:00 PM | comments

"[In] in terms of public opinion, same-sex marriage now is like interracial marriage in the 90s, when it had already been legal nationwide for 30 years."Read More

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SCOTUS Weds Marriage Equality to Economic Justice

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 07, 2014 | 5:45 PM | comments

The Supreme Court's decision to let lower court rulings in favor of marriage equality stand effectively weds equality to economic justice for LGBT families in more states.Read More

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'Incredibly Joyous' Windsor Visits Star-Struck Maddow

Filed by John M. Becker | October 07, 2014 | 12:30 PM | comments

On her show last night, Rachel Maddow discussed yesterday's dramatic marriage equality news with Edie Windsor and her attorney, Roberta Kaplan.Read More

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No, Sam Harris Is Not Islamophobic

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 06, 2014 | 4:00 PM | comments

If secular liberals and progressives are to continue to fight the spread of fundamentalist Christianity, we have to continue to denounce radical and fundamentalist Islam as well. That's not racist, bigoted, or neoconservative.Read More

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Lessons From 'Light Dispelling Darkness' [PTAS]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | October 04, 2014 | 4:00 PM | comments

The 76 years since its creation have not been kind to this sculpture but then, they haven't been so kind to its central concept either. Read More

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Gay Couple Heckled at Wedding Will Get a Do-Over

Filed by John M. Becker | October 03, 2014 | 4:00 PM | comments

The community of Coronado, California is banding together to hold a "do-over" wedding for an Arizona gay couple whose ceremony was ruined by a cowardly homophobic heckler.Read More

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Trans* Women of Color's Lives Matter

Filed by Michael Knaapen | October 03, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

Last Saturday, nearly 50 people gathered on the steps of the Washington Convention Center to support trans women of color -- because every life matters.Read More

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Inaugural Poet Richard Blanco on Labels, Stereotypes

Filed by Garrard Conley | October 03, 2014 | 10:00 AM | comments

Just how comfortable should we be with labels, and what, ultimately, is their function in art?Read More

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Climate Change: It's Happening in My Backyard

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | October 02, 2014 | 3:00 PM | comments

Understanding the interconnections and interdependence needed for our healthy planet to survive - and the global and collective work needed to fix the damage humans have done - is an LGBTQ issue.Read More

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We Must Break Free From Our Narratives

Filed by Guest Blogger | October 01, 2014 | 1:00 PM | comments

It is extremely difficult to break free of our narratives, even when they obviously lead to preposterous conclusions. Only saints do it perfectly. The rest of us struggle along, getting better at it only slowly with supreme effort. Read More

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Flip Flops & the Foot Fetishist: Creepy or Hot?

Filed by Bil Browning | October 01, 2014 | 11:30 AM | comments

A couple of weeks ago something happened to me that I never would have expected. I posted about it on Facebook and the reactions I got from friends and followers surprised me.Read More

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Anger Is Still a Privilege in 'Post-Racial' America

Filed by Terrance Heath | October 01, 2014 | 10:00 AM | comments

Much has changed in "post-racial" America, but just as much hasn't changed.Read More