Living: January 2015

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More Than Bondage [Picture Tells A Story]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 31, 2015 | 4:00 PM | comments

In that moment as the lights were hot and my ropes wrapped around him, he authentically leaned back with a smile as both he and I became fully present with one another.Read More

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Domino's New BDSM-Themed Pizza Ad

Filed by Bil Browning | January 31, 2015 | 1:00 PM | comments

Domino's may have a reputation as a conservative company thanks to the founder's extreme religious anti-abortion views even though it was sold many many years ago. This week, the company made sure to put that talk to, well, bed.Read More

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ExxonMobil Finally Adds LGBT Workplace Protections

Filed by John M. Becker | January 30, 2015 | 2:30 PM | comments

ExxonMobil is making its equal opportunity employment policy LGBT-inclusive, because failing to do so would jeopardize its federal contracts.Read More

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Bryan Fischer Fired as AFA Spokesman

Filed by John M. Becker | January 29, 2015 | 10:00 AM | comments

The American Family Association, a certified anti-LGBT hate group, has fired spokesbigot Bryan Fischer from his position as Director of Issues Analysis, 'The Rachel Maddow Show' reports.Read More

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'Cabaret' Star Joel Grey, 82, Comes Out

Filed by John M. Becker | January 28, 2015 | 11:30 AM | comments

Broadway and film legend Joel Grey is coming out as gay in an interview published today by People magazine.Read More

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Alabama Judge Again Strikes Down Marriage Discrimination

Filed by John M. Becker | January 27, 2015 | 3:30 PM | comments

For the second time in four days, U.S. District Judge Callie V.S. Granade has struck down the state's marriage discrimination amendment. Like the previous decision, today's ruling has been stayed until February 9.Read More

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Mormon 'Compromise' on LGBT Rights Is a Poison Pill

Filed by John M. Becker | January 27, 2015 | 1:15 PM | comments

The Mormon Church announced today that it will support laws banning discrimination against LGBT people, but there's a catch: they want broad religious exemptions to protect religion-based bigotry.Read More

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Pope Francis Allegedly Meets With Trans Man

Filed by John M. Becker | January 27, 2015 | 11:30 AM | comments

Pope Francis reportedly met privately with a Spanish transgender man and his fiancée on Saturday.Read More

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Infographic: The History of Porn

Filed by Bil Browning | January 26, 2015 | 3:30 PM | comments

Most people don't realize that porn has been around since the beginning of civilization and shows no signs of going away any time soon. Read More

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Saks Reverses Position on Title VII & Trans Protections

Filed by John M. Becker | January 26, 2015 | 2:00 PM | comments

This morning, under heavy pressure, luxury retailer Saks Fifth Avenue reversed its position in federal court on whether Title VII's prohibition on sex discrimination covers people who are transgender.Read More

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Dear Abby Has Great Advice for Shunned Gay Grandmother

Filed by John M. Becker | January 25, 2015 | 4:00 PM | comments

"If your son is under the mistaken impression that he is going to somehow 'protect' his children by isolating them from gay people, he must be living in an alternate reality."Read More

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2014: A Transgender Year in Review, Part 2

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 25, 2015 | 12:00 PM | comments

As a trans activist, there was much to celebrate for our movement in 2014, and even the most negative events gave hope for a silver lining and future progress.Read More

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Fear & Collaboration [Picture Tells a Story]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 24, 2015 | 4:00 PM | comments

The pressure of having to make people's time and work add up to something is why I spent the last year mostly taking pictures of seascapes. It is hard to disappoint a sunset. Read More

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Richard Dawkins Reads Homophobic Hate Mail

Filed by John M. Becker | January 23, 2015 | 4:30 PM | comments

Evolutionary biologist and noted atheist Richard Dawkins is the target of a lot of hate mail -- and a lot of it is anti-gay in nature.Read More

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Three Oklahoma Lawmakers Go Anti-Gay Crazy

Filed by Bil Browning | January 23, 2015 | 2:00 PM | comments

As state legislatures nationwide reconvene after the elections, LGBT people should prepare for another onslaught of animus. Oklahoma lawmakers, however, took an early jump into anti-gay bigotry.Read More

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It's Time to Give 100%

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 23, 2015 | 9:00 AM | comments

I have lost count of the number of guys I talk to who bemoan their singleness, yet refuse to go 100% all-out in their pursuit of the guy they want.Read More

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Black LGBTQ Generations Come Together for 'Selma'

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | January 22, 2015 | 1:30 PM | comments

The film "Selma" can connect activists from the 1960s Civil Rights era to today's Black Lives Matter movement.Read More


No Virtue in Religion

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 22, 2015 | 10:30 AM | comments

There is nothing respectable about persecuting homosexuals, stoning prostitutes, treating women like property, or teaching these values to children. There is nothing about a cross or half-moon that makes such heinous deeds admirable or even acceptable.Read More

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Rocker: Blacks, But Not Gays, Can Take Offense at Slurs

Filed by John M. Becker | January 21, 2015 | 3:30 PM | comments

Metal vocalist Phil Labonte implied in a recent interview that African Americans have a right to be offended by slurs, but not gays - because gays were never enslaved.Read More

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If Life Worked Like a Hookup App

Filed by Bil Browning | January 21, 2015 | 2:00 PM | comments

Have you experienced these guys too?Read More

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Socks, (White) Lies, and Videotape

Filed by Patrick J Hamilton | January 20, 2015 | 1:00 PM | comments

I've always liked fun, colorful socks. They're a way to add some fun and creativity to the male uniform. But back when I was a college student, they were about something else entirely.Read More

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The Car Insurance Ad You Won't Believe

Filed by Bil Browning | January 19, 2015 | 2:30 PM | comments

UK company MoneySuperMarket has turned up the dial in this car insurance ad. Instead of making trans people a joke to be laughed at, they serve up pride by the shovelful. Read More


Let's Break Free & Fix Society

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 18, 2015 | 12:00 PM | comments

It's messed up that we trans* people face such high rates of things like suicide, murder, and assault. It needs to stop. Art can be a wonderful counterweight to the negativity.Read More

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Body Integrity vs. Bad Science [Picture Tells A Story]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 17, 2015 | 4:00 PM | comments

Circumcision has an extensive history as a cure desperately in search of a disease, and has throughout the last 150 years been promoted as the "cure" or solution to everything from epilepsy to cancer, UTIs to clubfoot.Read More


ISIS Barbarians Throw Two Gay Men to Their Deaths

Filed by John M. Becker | January 17, 2015 | 8:30 AM | comments

The jihadist barbarians of the so-called Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS) have executed two more men for alleged homosexuality -- this time, by throwing them off of a tall building.Read More

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Michael Sam Proposes... Atop St. Peter's Basilica

Filed by John M. Becker | January 16, 2015 | 3:00 PM | comments

Eat your heart out, Pope Francis!Read More

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NC Catholic Diocese Fires Gay Teacher for Marriage Plans

Filed by John M. Becker | January 16, 2015 | 1:30 PM | comments

In the latest salvo in the Catholic hierarchy's unholy crusade against LGBT people, families, and allies, the Catholic Archdiocese of Charlotte, North Carolina has fired a gay teacher because of his decision to marry his partner later this year.Read More

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Slap on Wrist for Dallas Airport Gay-Basher

Filed by John M. Becker | January 15, 2015 | 4:00 PM | comments

McCleish Christmas Benham, the drunk bigot who verbally and physically assaulted a man he believed to be gay at Dallas-Fort Worth Airport last year, will pay less than $500 in fines for the attack.Read More

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2014: A Transgender Year in Review, Part 1

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 15, 2015 | 1:00 PM | comments

2014 was, on balance, a very good year for transgender people in America. Read More

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Martin Luther King Jr.'s Expansive Dream

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | January 14, 2015 | 5:00 PM | comments

If Dr. King were among us today, he would say that it is not enough just to look outside ourselves to see the places where society is broken.Read More

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Today in Christian Moral Outrage: Satanic Bus Brake Lights

Filed by Bil Browning | January 14, 2015 | 1:00 PM | comments

Here's your daily dose of religifying derp courtesy of a deranged Memphis woman who thinks Satan is advertising in the brake lights of a local school bus. No shit.Read More

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Study: Most Mixed-Orientation Mormon Marriages Fail

Filed by John M. Becker | January 14, 2015 | 12:00 PM | comments

File this one under "duh": a new study finds that the majority of mixed-orientation Mormon marriages, like those profiled on TLC's "My Husband Is Not Gay," end in divorce.Read More

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CO Pastor Stops, Cancels Married Lesbian's Funeral

Filed by John M. Becker | January 14, 2015 | 10:00 AM | comments

A Denver-area church stopped a lesbian mom's funeral service - after it had already started - because the memorial video contained photos of her with her wife.Read More

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Indian Official Walks Back Plans to 'Fix' LGBT Youth

Filed by John M. Becker | January 13, 2015 | 4:00 PM | comments

A government minister in the Indian beach state of Goa is walking back his claim that the government was planning to set up AA-style intervention programs to straighten out LGBT youth.Read More

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My Gonorrhea Nostalgia

Filed by Mark S. King | January 13, 2015 | 2:00 PM | comments

Whatever moderate concern we once had for contracting an STI (and empathy for those getting one) has been transformed into a fearsome judgment of any repercussions of gay sex, regardless of its actual threat to our health.Read More

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Victory in Cairo Bathhouse Case, But...

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 13, 2015 | 10:00 AM | comments

Egyptian justice hasn't changed -- it's still unjust. The courts are still chaos, these men's lives are still wrecked. Yet there's a bit of hope.Read More

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Wingnut Week in Review: Wingnuts in Paris

Filed by Terrance Heath | January 12, 2015 | 1:30 PM | comments

Wingnuts wasted no time last week scoring political points in the wake of the deadly terrorist attack on the Paris offices of a satirical newspaper.Read More

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The Smithsonian's Newest LGBT History Acquisition

Filed by Bil Browning | January 12, 2015 | 12:00 PM | comments

The road to the Smithsonian's National Archives Collection #1334, "The Bil Browning and Jerame Davis Papers," and our joint activism for LGBT rights started, as most good stories do, simply enough.Read More

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Former Exodus Leader Randy Thomas Comes Out

Filed by John M. Becker | January 12, 2015 | 11:00 AM | comments

Randy Thomas -- a former "ex-gay" spokesman who served as executive vice president of Exodus International until it folded in 2013 -- is coming out of the closet.Read More

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Irish Priest Comes Out at Mass, Gets Standing Ovation

Filed by John M. Becker | January 11, 2015 | 12:00 PM | comments

A Catholic priest in Dublin, Ireland came out as gay to his parishioners at Mass, declared his support for marriage equality, and urged them to vote for the freedom to marry.Read More

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Beyond a Black & White World [Picture Tells A Story]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 10, 2015 | 4:00 PM | comments

A black and white view of the world is tempting because it helps us build internally consistent narratives, which are deeply appealing to the part of ourselves that find logic and rationality comforting.Read More

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Holding Hands Should Not Be an Act of Defiance

Filed by Bil Browning | January 10, 2015 | 1:00 PM | comments

Thoughts on navigating a world in which the simple act of holding hands can be a political statement in itself.Read More


HRC Smacks Saks Over Troubling Court Filing

Filed by John M. Becker | January 08, 2015 | 4:30 PM | comments

The Human Rights Campaign is suspending Saks Fifth Avenue's positive Corporate Equality Index score after the retail giant made a troubling anti-trans argument in a recent legal filing.Read More

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Juror's Verdict Is for Marriage Equality

Filed by Norm Kent | January 08, 2015 | 1:00 PM | comments

We can be proud this day has come, prouder still that so many have journeyed so far to see it through.Read More

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Porno Pete Writes a Poem About Michael Sam

Filed by John M. Becker | January 08, 2015 | 10:00 AM | comments

It's been almost eight months since football player Michael Sam's famous on-air same-sex kiss, but Peter LaBarbera just can't stop thinking about it.Read More

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Mississippi Marriage Plaintiff Couple Speaks Out

Filed by John M. Becker | January 07, 2015 | 2:00 PM | comments

Ahead of Friday's federal appeals court oral arguments in the Mississippi marriage case, USA Today spoke with one of the plaintiff couples.Read More

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Atlanta Mayor Fires Homophobic Fire Chief

Filed by John M. Becker | January 06, 2015 | 5:15 PM | comments

Atlanta Mayor Kasim Reed has terminated the city's fire chief, Kelvin Cochran, after writing and distributing an anti-gay, anti-woman, and anti-Semitic book to his employees.Read More

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Miami Archdiocese Threatens to Fire Employees Who Publicly Back Marriage

Filed by John M. Becker | January 06, 2015 | 4:00 PM | comments

As the freedom to marry comes to Florida, the Catholic Archdiocese of Miami is warning its employees that they may be fired if they publicly support marriage equality -- even on their personal social media pages.Read More

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A Different Kind of New Year's Column

Filed by Mark Segal | January 06, 2015 | 1:00 PM | comments

2014 was the best year of my life and, at 63, that's saying something.Read More

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California's Gas Price Hysteria

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 06, 2015 | 11:30 AM | comments

Don't be swayed by Big Energy's misinformation: cap and trade is the most market-friendly, cost-effective way to reduce greenhouse gas emissions. Read More

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Not Into Black Guys

Filed by Bil Browning | January 05, 2015 | 11:30 AM | comments

Nelson Moses Lassiter from Philadelphia speaks about his experiences coming out as a black man and the double dose of racism it entailed.Read More

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Marriage and Borders

Filed by John M. Becker | January 04, 2015 | 4:00 PM | comments

As a geography geek, I've always been fascinated with borders. But when my now-husband and I wanted to get married, my relationship with them became a whole lot more complicated.Read More

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Medical Marijuana's Green Rainbow: Getting to 50 States

Filed by Norm Kent | January 04, 2015 | 2:00 PM | comments

Medical marijuana is legal in 24 states, so we have a ways to go to get to 50. And the LGBT community can lead the way.Read More


Publix Offers Smoke-and-Mirror Policy

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 04, 2015 | 10:00 AM | comments

Grocery store chain Publix is being applauded for offering health benefits to married same-sex couples. But the praise is largely undeserved.Read More

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Who Will We Be Tomorrow? [Picture Tells A Story]

Filed by E. Winter Tashlin | January 03, 2015 | 3:30 PM | comments

We should be proud of what we've achieved, but the flip side of "pride" is that we don't really have any ideas for what our community looks like without an oppressor to define ourselves against.Read More

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Meet My (Pro-Equality) Parents: Lyle & Michele Becker

Filed by John M. Becker | January 02, 2015 | 4:00 PM | comments

Their love for each other is an inspiration to Michael and me, and their passion for social justice and equality for all members of the human family is what kindled my own passion for activism. They are true heroes in my book.Read More

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Remembering Leelah Alcorn

Filed by Guest Blogger | January 02, 2015 | 12:00 PM | comments

Leelah Alcorn was a 17-year-old transgender girl living in Ohio who wasn't accepted by her family. On Sunday, December 28, she committed suicide by walking in front of an oncoming tractor trailer.Read More

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Meet the Last 'Respectable' Reparative Therapist

Filed by Brynn Tannehill | January 02, 2015 | 10:00 AM | comments

At this stage in the debate, you might think that reparative therapy would be dead as a kipper on a cracker. But you haven't met Dr. Kenneth Zucker.Read More

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What's Your New Year's Resolution? [Open Thread]

Filed by John M. Becker | January 01, 2015 | 9:00 AM | comments

Do you make resolutions for the New Year? If so, what are yours? I need some ideas -- help me out!Read More