The Movement: May 2009

I Don't Care What You Do in the Privacy of Your Own Home...

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 31, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

I'm just sick of them rubbing it my face. I don't "hate" them, I just don't want to see it. They can do it in the privacy of their own home, but stop forcing it down my throat. Familiar arguments...Read More

Beyond the Matthew Shepard Act: A Conversation Worth Listening To

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 31, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

Rachel Segal-Sklar is a sophomore at Skidmore College, and co-creator of the Skid TV/Youtube series: SEXILED. Monday night on May 18th, the New York City Anti-Violence Project's Heroes Council held a very interesting and rousing conversation between Judy Shepard, mother...Read More

The Dallas Principles: Why Not Now?

Filed by Juan and Ken Ahonen-Jover | May 30, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

Two weeks ago, a group of 24 thinkers, activists, and donors (including Juan and Ken) got together to discuss how to reach legal equality faster for LGBT Americans. The result was the creation of a document called The Dallas Principles....Read More

Keep Parenting Queer

Filed by Paige Schilt | May 29, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

A while back, I attended a workshop for LGBT families. At lunch, the organizers asked parents to break into small groups and talk about "things that sustain us." My group was chewing its sandwiches in awkward silence, so I decided...Read More

"No Excuses. No Delays." Do we really mean it?

Filed by Nadine Smith | May 29, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

At a recent speaking engagement, I asked a group of people what the world would be like if from the day they were born prejudice had never touched their lives. No homophobic bullying in school. Supportive families at homes No...Read More

Kalamazoo/Lansing Day of Decision protest photos

Filed by Bil Browning | May 28, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Projector Adam T sent in these photos of the Day of Decision protests in Kalamazoo and Lansing, Michigan. Don't miss our other photos of Indianapolis, Indiana's rally and the protest in Dallas, Texas. It's great to see all these pics...Read More


You've Got (Hate) Mail

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 28, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Like any good online geek, I stumbled out of bed this morning and went straight for the computer to check my email, Twitter, and Facebook. Green tea in hand, I opened my computer and started scrolling through the tons of...Read More

FL Candidate Steve Kornell gets standing ovation for being Out and Proud

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 28, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

St. Petersburg City Council candidate Steve Kornell was asked about whether he is gay or not at a recent debate and answered openly and honestly. And got a standing ovation for it. Kornell would be the first out gay member...Read More

More on the federal suit for marriage

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 28, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

As I posted yesterday, I'm not at all optimistic about the federal suit filed to overturn Proposition 8 (and legalize same-sex marriage). Yes, I think these folks are right in that equal protection and due process should mean that everyone...Read More

Prop 8: The Think Positive Edition

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 28, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

The blogosphere is awash in news and analysis of Prop 8. I'm working on a more thoughtful piece of my own, but in the meantime, I wanted to highlight a few of the more positive pieces I've found. Call me...Read More

Prop 8 is a Distraction, or: NOW can we Dump Gay Marriage as a Cause?

Filed by Yasmin Nair | May 27, 2009 | 7:30 PM | comments

Note from Bil: I've pushed Yasmin's post back up to the top because comments are still going strong, but it had fallen pretty far down the page. I've pushed it back up so others can check out the conversation and...Read More

A Prop 8 flashback

Filed by Bil Browning | May 27, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

It just seemed appropriate to re-post this video of Keith Olbermann's Prop 8 Special Comment today....Read More

Black and gay -- and reclaiming 'civil rights'

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 27, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

Note from Pam: OK, I know people can be hesitant to jump into a thread that touches upon race. Don't let it become an orphan thread. Speak your mind - be part of the solution of open communication, not part...Read More

Dallas Day of Decision protest photo essay

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 27, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Projector John Selig sent in these photos from the Dallas Day of Decision protest yesterday evening as a guest photo essay. Clickety all pics to embiggen. For more pictures, check out John's site. In Texas there were protests...Read More

Proposition Hate Redux

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | May 27, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

The California Supreme Court ruled again on same-sex marriage. This time it did to uphold Proposition 8, restricting marriage to one man and one woman. In a 6-to-1 decision the justices decided that Proposition 8 would remain part of the...Read More

Federal case to overturn Prop 8

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 27, 2009 | 12:00 PM | comments

The Advocate is reporting that a new org, the American Foundation for Equal Rights, has filed a federal equal protection suit to overturn Prop 8, and, as Salon is reporting, to overturn marriage bans everywhere. I'm sure we'll find out...Read More

June 1-8 at Stonewall Library & Archives

Filed by Charles L. Ross | May 27, 2009 | 8:00 AM | comments

June 1-30 Exhibition The Observer's Eye: Photography from the Charles L. Ross Collection Thirteen black-and-white pictures of men photographed by, among others, Bruce Weber, Duane Michals and John Dugdale. June 8 Meet the Collector Reception 6:30-8:00pm June 2 Stonewall Book...Read More

California's Prop 8: Limited Edition Married Gays, Still Separate and NOT EQUAL

Filed by Waymon Hudson | May 26, 2009 | 6:00 PM | comments

My head is spinning. After the long wait, the decision on Prop 8 has come. It was something my husband and I were watching very closely, since we are 1 of the 18,000 couples married in California while it was...Read More

Prop 8 reaction from South LA

Filed by Karen Ocamb | May 26, 2009 | 3:00 PM | comments

The room at the Lucy Florence Café in South Los Angeles was packed with reporters listening to prayers from religious leaders from across the religious spectrum. At 10 o'clock - the room fell still until a reporter announced the ruling...Read More

Rethinking Barney Frank

Filed by Rebecca Juro | May 25, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

As any LGBT who follows American politics knows, with the Democrats running things in Congress and Obama in the White House it's supposedly a new day in America for LGBT people and rights. At the same time, however, we also...Read More

Who celebrates our queer servicemembers on Memorial Day?

Filed by Rev Irene Monroe | May 24, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

There will be parades all across the country this Memorial Day commemorating our U.S. service members who died while in the military. But not all of our servicemembers will be honored for their acts of bravery and patriotism. Back in...Read More

The Master's Tools, Pt. 2

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 24, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

(Read part 1.) For the master's tools will never dismantle the master's house. They may allow us temporarily to beat him at his own game, but they will never enable us to bring about genuine change. ~ Audre Lourde The...Read More

The Master's Tools

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 22, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

For the master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house… ~ Audre Lourde That’s for Marion Barry, a number of D.C.’s black ministers, and many African-Americans who seem to need the reminder. When the D.C. city council voted to...Read More

Breaking: Prop 8 Ruling Date Announced

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 22, 2009 | 1:07 PM | comments

The California Supreme Court has announced they will make the Prop 8 ruling this coming Tuesday, May 26, at 10 a.m. PT. Fasten your seatbelts....Read More

Should we march on Washington? What would we march for?

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 22, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

Over these past few weeks, we've seen building pressure on Obama to act on his LGBT promises from the campaign trail. More and more high-profile military officers have been discharges, two laws related to LGBT benefits and rights were proposed...Read More

Would Harvey Milk be proud of us?

Filed by Chuck Wolfe | May 22, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Shortly before he died in 1978, openly gay San Francisco Supervisor Harvey Milk made some extraordinarily prescient audio recordings. On one recording, he famously said, "If a bullet should enter my brain, let it destroy every closet door." Today would...Read More

Lieutenant Colonel Victor J. Fehrenbach on Rachel Maddow

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 21, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

I'm sick out of my mind today, so anything of substance will be unlikely. But here's a video from Rachel Maddow about DADT: Visit for Breaking News, World News, and News about the Economy I have some thoughts after...Read More

Two marriage items: Back to committee in New Hampshire and California ruling delayed by Gavin Newsom

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 20, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

UPDATED: Gavin Newsom's office is denying the charges published by Towleroad. Their statement added to the end of the post. The New Hampshire house has sent the amendment to create a religious exemption to their same-sex marriage bill back to...Read More

Equality for All Now: The Dallas Principles...join us.

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 20, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

There were a lot of things I could have done this past weekend. Get to that pile of laundry, hit the pillow for some sorely-needed shut-eye, and, of course, spend quality time with my wife. But I hopped on...Read More

Prop 8 decision?

Filed by Bil Browning | May 20, 2009 | 1:30 PM | comments

The rumor mill started whirling last night that the California Supreme Court will issue it's ruling on Prop 8's constitutionality Thursday after Joe.My.God's Joe Jervis posted that San Francisco police were dropping off crowd barriers in the Castro district. Since...Read More

"Yasmin Nair: Eat This!" Or: How to Leave Comments Without Going up In Flames

Filed by Yasmin Nair | May 19, 2009 | 1:00 PM | comments

I recently began my stint as a regular contributor on The blog, devoted to queers and money, has a tagline that reads: "We're here, we're queer, and we're not going shopping without coupons." My first post was about the...Read More

Contrast: NY marriage rallies

Filed by Eric Leven | May 18, 2009 | 6:30 PM | comments

The contrast between two marriage rallies yesterday in NYC couldn't have been greater. In the early part of the day I jumped uptown to attend an anti-marriage equality rally organized mostly by a group of Hispanic and Latino church goers...Read More

Michael Steele, I'm unimpressed

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 17, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Michael Steele thinks he's going to blow us away with a new argument against same-sex marriage that pretty much amounts to "Equal pay for equal work is too expensive, so we have to preserve a two-tier system of benefits distribution."...Read More

Five Years Later: Proof Positive

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 17, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

May 17, 2004: The first legal marriages of same-sex couples in Massachusetts. Still locust-free here in the Bay State....Read More

Protesters call for Reform of Gender Disorders at American Psychiatric Association Convention

Filed by Kelley Winters | May 17, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

Thanks to Danielle Askini for this media advisory: What: A coalition of transgender community advocates and mental health providers will gather in San Francisco May 18 to protest how the American Psychiatric Association (APA) is handling revisions to "gender identity...Read More


Filed by Annette Gross | May 17, 2009 | 10:00 AM | comments

On Saturday, June 13th, Indianapolis will once again celebrate the 2009 InPride Parade and Festival. The Parade begins at 10:00 a.m. on Massachusetts Avenue near College, and the Festival follows the Parade. This will be the 5th year that I...Read More

Sully: A 'sickeningly familiar feeling' Obama's team wants LGBTs and our issues to go away

Filed by Pam Spaulding | May 15, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

Yes, Andrew Sullivan, you hit the nail on the head this time. Emphasis mine: And it's tedious to whine and jump up and down and complain when a wand isn't waved and everything is made right by the first candidate...Read More

Look at these naked French women's boobs! (And give them your $$!)

Filed by Bil Browning | May 14, 2009 | 5:30 PM | comments

Two things I stumbled across this morning that reminded me of how sex really sells in our society - and apparently French society too. Make the Girl Dance, a new electro-pop duo, has hit internet gold with their first release...Read More

Where we stand on the next Supreme Court justice

Filed by Chuck Wolfe | May 14, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

The Washington press corps was briefly fascinated last week by the idea of an openly gay or lesbian Supreme Court nominee. The spark that lit the media forest fire was an innocent-enough post on the Victory Fund's blog,, pointing...Read More

Enough Already!

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 14, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

Nancy Polikoff wrote yesterday about NCLR's great win in Florida, when the Florida Court of Appeals ruled that the state must give "full faith and credit" to adoption decrees from other states. The ruling stemmed from a case in which...Read More

How many partners is too many?

Filed by Eric Leven | May 12, 2009 | 5:00 PM | comments

This is a conversation Eric the roommate and I find ourselves having quite often (he's straight, btw's.) However, it always boils down to what do we define as "sex." For the straight world (most straights I talk to tend to...Read More

Hyatt tries to donate to the gays

Filed by Alex Blaze | May 11, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

Fred Karger's Californians Against Hate (a pretty effective group) has had some success in their boycott of several San Diego area Hyatt hotels. They started the boycott last July because the owner of those hotels, Doug Manchester, donated $125,000 to...Read More

Repealing DADT Is Only the First Step

Filed by Dana Rudolph | May 11, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

I wrote this back in February for, but it seemed timely to repost it here (with slight updates) in light of the Army National Guard's recent dismissal of West Point graduate and Arabic linguist Lt. Dan Choi under "Don't...Read More

Will Democrats Seize the Marriage Moment?

Filed by Terrance Heath | May 08, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

DC has approved a same-sex marriage law. Washington DC city council has voted to recognise same-sex marriages conducted in other US states. Because Washington DC is not a state, the decision will now have to be approved by Congress before...Read More

The Right Side of History

Filed by Sara Whitman | May 08, 2009 | 12:30 PM | comments

I went to a concert this morning for my son Jake. They sang the song, Nifty Fifty United States... I kept thinking, oh, win, win, gonna win, gonna win... long time for that one. The truth is, we are making...Read More

Hate is not always obvious

Filed by Father Tony | May 08, 2009 | 11:00 AM | comments

The South Florida Blade is reporting that police have arrested two men charged with attempted felony murder, strong armed robbery and aggravated assault in two separate April 6 attacks on gay men. An anonymous tip led police to the alleged...Read More

Soldier who came out on MSNBC dismissed

Filed by Bil Browning | May 08, 2009 | 10:30 AM | comments

Remember Lt. Dan Choi, the brave Arabic translator who came out on the Rachel Maddow show a few months ago? Lt. Choi founded Knights Out, a group of West Point cadets/alumni that are openly gay. He has seen action overseas...Read More

NOM ads on LGBT sites: A pheNOMenal waste of money

Filed by Jerame Davis | May 05, 2009 | 7:00 PM | comments

There has been some discussion lately of the National Organization for Marriage (NOM) and their latest online advertising campaign. Their anti-marriage equality ads are popping up on LGBT websites across the web. Many of these sites are banning these ads...Read More

Kramer Vs. Kramer

Filed by Eric Leven | May 04, 2009 | 4:30 PM | comments

According to GayCityNews one of my favorite middle fingers in the gay community, Larry Kramer, spoke at his alma mater, Yale, for failing to secure the course of Gay History at the Ivy League school. Kramer also didn't hold back...Read More

Unclear against whom the "rage" should flow

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 04, 2009 | 3:30 PM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Chris Worden is a family-law attorney and political commentator. Chris has managed two successful statewide races in Indiana, including the campaign to elect Pam Carter, the nation's first African-American woman attorney general. Outrage, Kirby Dick's new...Read More

Local Activist Let Down

Filed by Chip Clapp | May 04, 2009 | 2:30 PM | comments

Why is it that when a politician fails to come through on promises to the gay community, he/she is public enemy number one, but the second that same person agrees to come and give us the same lip service as...Read More

Renewed Hope

Filed by Kate Kendell | May 02, 2009 | 4:00 PM | comments

With its groundbreaking marriage decision a year ago, the California Supreme Court set us on a path that -- despite some setbacks -- has led to one marriage victory a week in the past month: A first-ever unanimous state supreme...Read More

We matter

Filed by Guest Blogger | May 01, 2009 | 11:30 AM | comments

Editors' Note: Guest blogger Lena Dahlstrom is a crossdresser from the San Francisco Bay Area who also performs as a drag queen under the stage name "Joie de Vivre." Wednesday was a bit of an emotional roller coaster for me....Read More

The same as abolishing marriage?

Filed by Nancy Polikoff | May 01, 2009 | 9:30 AM | comments

After many years of advocating that marriage should be abolished as a legal institution and left entirely to religion, I changed my mind at some point in the process of writing Beyond (Straight and Gay) Marriage. I heard so many...Read More